Saw this meme the other day as it was floating around on Facebook.  As I was sharing it along with thousands of others, it hit me that this is not just a parenting meme but also a meme for marriage.

How many times do we get stuck in our daily routines and we take out life’s not so kind days out on our spouses because well “they are our spouse”.

Yes that is true they are our spouse but they are also a human being.  Let me explain.  This meme says that we need to speak to children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical human on earth. For they believe what they become.

I hate to break this news to you, but this is not just for children…. it is for all mankind.  If we are being told over and over again that we are stupid or that we don’t have a brain.. (now we may not be saying those exact words towards our spouse, but our words mixed with tones get the same results as using those words).   But for this blog I want to look at the way we, as wives, talk to our husbands.

I want to use a common example of driving.  Read this with the nagging voice we know we use. 

Why are you going that way?

The house is this way?

You are going way out of the way?

You are too close?

Quit following them so close?

Watch out there is a car stopped! (a few miles up the road).

Watch out they might pullover.

The list can go on and on and by now you may be laughing because you can hear yourself saying some or all of those.

Even though we have arrived safely to our destination, the stress we have created through our constant “nagging” because they

• did not go the way we thought they should go,
• they followed too close for our comfort
• we thought they were blind because they were not worried about a car stopped a few miles down the interstate

All this creates a tension that is just adding to the already tension in our marriages; because marriage is hard.

Then to top it off add the advertising world.

The advertising world has had a war on men as husbands over the past few years.  They are being portrayed as the “idiot” and even though we would never say our husbands were idiots, go back a few lines and re-read the paragraph about driving.

You see our subconscious minds get filled with things we see everyday, and when we aren’t being conscious of our words and actions, this adds to our husbands belief that they are “idiots”.

We as wives need to start being more attentive to our words (verbal and non-verbal) towards our husbands.

I see so many women today who will share this meme as long as it is only talking about children.  They don’t see how it could possibly relate to their marriage.

Unfortunately satan works this way and one day you may wake up and hear the words “I don’t love you anymore, I want a divorce”.

Our marriages are on the hot seat and satan wants to destroy them.  Proverbs 21:9 (HCSB) says:

Better to live on the corner of a roof than to share a house with a nagging wife 

So my challenge to all of us women who call ourselves Christians , as we start 2018 with goals and resolutions how about adding “a stronger marriage” to that list.